If you don’t know this already you are in luck! Men are very simple creatures (yes I said creatures) and often times there is a lack of communication between men and women because we (women) automatically assume men think like us (which we know is not the case) So here is a list of a few things we should know about the men in our lives. This may be new to some and a reminder to others so enjoy!
1. Compliment him! Men need to feel “pretty” also. If he looks good let him know. We know how we feel when a man tells us we look gorgeous or beautiful so don’t forget to do the same for him.
2. Always keep up your appearance. When we finally snag our prince charming some women tend to “fall off” That is a huge mistake. I am not saying go to great lengths to look beautiful such as plastic surgery, but maintain your figure, dress up occasionally and leave the sweats in the closet. Do the same thing that you were doing when he was courting you. Just because you have him doesn’t mean its over…remember you have to keep him!
3. Have your own life! We some people get into relationships they cut their friends and family off. They want to spend every moment with the new boo, but ladies, he WANTS you to have your own life. He is not going to stop hanging out with his friends or watching Monday night football. Continue to participate in the activities that brought you pleasure before you met him. Your life shouldn’t stop for him.
4. Have a backbone! I don’t think there is a sign on anyone’s back that says “Welcome to My Home.” You are not a door mat so do not act like one. Stand up for yourself and to him. This may lead to an argument, but at least he knows that you stand for something and you are not going to say “Ok baby”
5. Men show their love in multiple ways. I know you are like “he can say it once in a while.” I totally agree!! But just because he didn’t say I love you when you hung up the phone last night does not mean that he does not possess those feelings. They show their love in many ways…you just have to know your partner well enough to know that he loves you. Did he give you the last Sticky Wing at BBQs? That’s love (lol kidding)
6. If he is less talkative or if he doesn’t seem excited and you ask “What’s wrong?” If he says “nothing’s wrong” chances are nothing is wrong. Sometimes they don’t want to talk. Don’t nag the man to death until he tells you something that you don’t want to hear. Let him be. If there is a problem he will come and talk to you…eventually lol…Just let him know ok, but if you need to talk I’m here and leave it alone. (This is extremely hard for me, but I’m working on it)
7. Don’t take certain things literally. If he says how was your day…he doesn’t want a play by play. To be honest I give it anyway lol! I was reluctant with posting this particular one because if you ask how my day was I am going to let you know how it was. I’m not going say oh it was good…unless I don’t want to talk to you, but usually I give a detailed summary(how much detail can you give in a summary right lol) of my days events. If you know me, you know I ALWAYS have a story…might I add they are always pretty funny! so that’s what you are going to get. If you don’t want the details don’t ask the question.
Ok once again I am no relationship expert, but when I find things on the internet that are interesting I always want to share with you. Once again, use your judgment. I don’t know the details of many of your relationships, but hopefully this will open up the lines of communication better.
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