So I really have not had the time to visit some of my favorite sites/blogs and just read, because my laptop is out of commission until further notice. So, I am forced to use my desk top and I can’t bring this to bed with me, so my time on the computer is limited. I did stop by Essence and saw an article that I had to shaer. This is for those of you who are in a relationship, so this will be beneficial to you. So if your cuffin hard this fall/winter (Boo loving season) you want to pay close attention to these 12 Rules for a Successful Relationship.
1. Never yell unless there is a fire. HGB: Yelling does not solve the problem. He/she will just tune you out.
2. Your first romantic efforts are usually your tools for longevity never throw them away. HGB: Never let the “honeymoon end”
3. Always renovate the structure of your relationship nothing new can ever grow on old soil. HGB: Try new things together and explore new places. Your relationship and bond wil be stronger. Find new ways to stay in love (if that makes sense)
4. If you follow rule three you will remain in tact through any storm. HGB: Storms are only temporary so stick it out!
5. If one person is finance someone has to be management, each individual should respect the others job. HGB: We do not need too many chiefs, indians are needed too.
6. Sacrifice things that are in reason for the benefit of the relationship. HGB: Sacrifice is a major part of any relationship. Sometimes you have to give up something to please your partner and to prevent unnecessary arguments.
7. Give from your heart and never from your mouth for the heart has no mouth for speaking only actions for doing! HGB:Preach!
8. Listen to your partner don’t hear them! When you are truly listening you are not thinking of your rebuttal or contemplating your defense. HGB: “Too listen is an effor and just to hear has no merit. Ducks hear also” -Igor Stravinsky. Listen to your partner and try to understand what he/she is saying! When you do not listen that causes a break down in communication and eventually the relationship.
9. Want for your partner what you would want for yourself. HGB: If you want the best for yourself, want the best for your partner, you are not in a relationship to upstage each other.
10. Saying that you are working on your bad habits is just an excuse for delaying the change. The cure is simple change the bad habit. HGB: Actions speak louder than words. Refer back to the posts on bad habits http://hergoodybag.com/motivation-monday
11. Keep the arguments clean and the sex dirty. HGB: Ummmmmmmm *blank stare*
12. Communication is key Democritus Of Abdera said it best: “To do all the talking and not willing to listen is a form of greed.” HGB: Communication is the basis of every relationship. With communication there is no relationship. That goes for lovers, family members, friends, and even co-workers. If you communicate effectively and not with the intentions of just doing what’s right for you, many problems can be and will be avoided.
So for all of you love birds out there, I hope this helps you and your love life.
-Stay SWEET!