Men

Ok so the Inside Scoop: Men has returned! It has been a minute since I did one of these posts and I found something good 🙂

As you all may know, we communicate in many ways, not just through speaking. Our body language plays a major role in how people perceive us, and the signals we send through our body language can often be misunderstood. So I’m going to let you know what guys think based on the signals of your body language.

Signal #1 Eye Contact

This is the most powerful weapon in your body-language-flirting arsenal, says Judi James, author of The Body Language Rules: A Savvy Guide to Understanding Who’s Flirting, Who’s Faking, and Who’s Really Interested.”If you hold his gaze for just a half second longer than the usual split-second gaze, and then you look down and back at him, it tells the guy that you’ve considered him and you like what you see,” James says.

HGB: this happens all of the time. As soon as I look at a guy, he thinks that I want him. I look down and I look back at him, out of habit or maybe he is cute, but if I’m interested I would smile, if I don’t then I’m thinking #ontothenextone lol. I was on the train one evening, and I happened to make eye contact with this guy trying to see what stop we were at. He thought that was his invitation to start a conversaiton. I was reading The Farming of Bones by Edwidge Danticat (great story) and he interrupted me and asked what was the book about. I looked at him and just saw all gold teeth and he just looked stale. I think my face may have looked like the bbm *sick face* Long story short, he still tried to talke to me and it didn’t work I was just nodding my head but really just reading my book. So now I wear shades on the train….lol…just kidding

Signal #2 Twirling your hair or fixing your clothes

We do this when we’re aware that we’re being watched and we want to make sure we look our best, James says. Grooming gestures like these let him know that you’ve noticed he has checked you out.

HGB: I have a bad habit of playing with my hair when I am bored. In meetings I just twirl my hair and it is a horrible habit that I need to break ASAP! I also twirl my hair when I’m a little nervous smh

Signal #3 Gently touching his arm

This is a boundary-testing touch. “Men see this as the first gesture to sex,” James says. “You are inviting him to reciprocate and touch you in a similar way.”

HGB: As long as he tries to touch my arm or my hand, that’s fine, but please leave my thighs, waist, or the small of my back alone! You’re cool but not that cool…sorry 🙂

There are five things that women should never, ever ask a guy (supposedly)
The five questions are:

   1 – What are you thinking? ( I ask this allll of the time lol)
   2 – Do you love me?
   3 – Do I look fat?
   4 – “Do you think she is prettier than me? (Insecure are we? )
   5 – “What would you do if I died?” (This is a bit extreme lol)

If the questions aren’t answered “properly” it can (and most likely will) lead to an unnecessary argument. If you are not ready for the truth, don’t ask! If you ask these questions you probably won’t get a response right away because he is thinking of something to say that won’t get him smacked. We have to stop being so vulnerable to these guys. We are putting them in control of our emotions and feelings. Yes we need compliments, yes we need to be held, yes we need to be loved, yes we need to feel like we are truly the best thing to ever happen to him, so guys make sure you do your part so we wouldn’t have to ask the questions that you hate! Ladies, we can’t be loved or love another if we don’t love ourselves….so give yourself a hug…(I make my students do that when they say something really profound lol)