So I have been on a hiatus from blogging for the past few months. There used to be at least seven new posts on the blog weekly, but then life happened and I was barely giving you four quality posts every few weeks. I’ll try not to make this post long…So I did something that was not in my immediate five year plan, that was apply for graduate school for my M.Ed (Master of Education). Long story short I was accepted into this program and orientation was in May but classes did not start until July. Between May and July I had tons of readings and assignments to complete as well blog and work at my full-time job. I tried hard to balance my professional life, personal life, blogging life, and school life, but it was challenging.

Once class started on July 1st I knew that I was in for a rude awakening. I hadn’t been in a formal education setting since the spring of 2010, so this was a familiar but strange feeling. For five weeks about 60+ hours a week (45 of those hours in class) I attended classes, completed projects, wrote papers, studied at the library and more. It was stressful physically, mentally, and emotionally, but the last five weeks were probably five of the best weeks of my adult life.

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I met so many people that I know I would have never met or developed friendships with if it had not been for this program. I also had some amazing instructors that challenged yet supported me through this learning experience. Self-reflection played a huge role in this program, and I was able to recognize things about myself that I was afraid to acknowledge. I was always one to “reflect” but now that has an entirely different meaning. Reflecting goes beyond thinking, it involves deep analytical thought in which you find ways to improve yourself or better a situation. Self-reflection leads to change and my thought process and attitude did just that. When it comes to reflecting, we sometimes need others to help as well. Fo one of my assignments I had to ask a few people what is one thing I need to improve to be a better person. The answers I received put many things into perspective for me regarding life and my relationships with people. Reflecting helped me identify critical areas in my life that needed change and now it is up to me to make that change.

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This process has truly been life changing for me because I was pushed and challenged to go above and beyond the limits that I set for myself. Many things that I have learned in church manifested in this program. Some of the books my pastor recommended and lessons that he taught were prevalent throughout many of my classes. I was like wait “God what are you doing?” When God wants to reach you He will use anything, anyone, and any situation so you can hear His word. All I can say is that I am listening loud and clear and following the path that God has set for me.

Action Plan- a way to make sure your vision is made concrete. It describes the steps you will take to reach your goals and bring change. 

Often times we set these audacious goals and New Year’s Resolutions, or we make bold statements about our vision and mission and we fail to have a plan of action. We put our faith in God, but faith without action is meaningless. There are a few sayings that I always repeat in my mind to stay on task:

  1. Proper preparation prevents poor performance
  2. If you fail to plan then you plan to fail

This weekend millions of people were outraged at the verdict of the George Zimmerman Trial. I must admit that I was one of them. I was hurt and angry. It seems that the “justice” system protects everyone, just not us African-Americans, especially African-American males. There were marches, rallies, and protests, but I began thinking what else can be done. Was the goal of those marches, rallies, and protests just to show how upset people were? Was the goal to show that people of all races and ethnicities can join together for the greater good? Was the goal to bring awareness to the injustices of the justice system? If those were the goals then I think they were accomplished, but what’s the next step? How can we protect our sons and brothers? How can we ensure that no other parents of children of color experiences what Sybrina Fulton and Tracy Martin has experienced?

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How can we educate our own people to show that we need to value each other because they see that we don’t value our own lives, so why should they? I have been fortunate enough to have this platform, as well as others, to share my thoughts. My heart is still heavy and I continuously pray for peace but also for wisdom.

We need an action plan, not just to bring civil charges against George Zimmerman, he’s honestly just a small part of a larger problem. I think it first begins with education. We need to educate ourselves and our children on the laws that govern “The Land of the Free.” Once we learn the laws we need to know how to change them to make them fair for all. We need to educate ourselves to occupy the seats of those who hold the most power. My pastor once said “Those who control the language, control the conversation.” We need to change the language of this country so that the laws do not only protect a select few.

We need character development to know how to conduct ourselves in certain situations. We need options when it seems like everyone is agains us. It’s sad to say that the system was never created for us and so we need to learn how to navigate the system that has been designed for us to fail from day one.

Rallies, protests, marches, and petitions are extremely important, but what we need is to educate ourselves and our children.

Proverbs 16:16 says

How much better to get wisdom than gold! To get understanding is to be chosen rather than silver

“True wealth is portable. It is not what’s on the outside, but the inside (knowledge/wisdom) that holds the greatest value.” Your knowledge is the only thing that cannot be taken away from you. So we need to educate ourselves in everything that we do, not just with social injustice. We need action plans in all areas of life because an action plan keeps us focus.

M.Y.O.B. Mind your own business. This is something that I struggle with. It’s not that I am always in someone’s business. I wouldn’t call myself nosey, but I will say that I am overly concerned with other people’s issues and I begin to worry. I don’t know why I do this, and it’s not because I’m compassionate, I just get caught up thinking about other people. This is something that I am really starting to struggle with at this point in my life. I worry about other people’s opinions and situations and it doesn’t even concern me. I don’t meddle in conflicts, but I just mainly ask the question why?

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My family and friends always tell me to focus on my own situations and goals and forget about what doesn’t concern me. This is something that I am working on, but it is hard! I just can’t fathom why people make certain decisions, and I’m sure people feel the same about me, but I’m just like why?!?!?!?!? It’s not like I’m the most rational person at all times, but I get so caught up in the business of others that I lose focus.

1 Thessalonians 4:11 says “And to aspire to live quietly, and to mind your own affairs, and to work with your hands, as we instructed you”

Over the last week I have been constantly saying to myself, don’t worry about what people are doing. Don’t worry about what  people are thinking. Don’t worry about what people are saying. Everything that I am “concerned” about is trivial and has nothing to do with me. So for those of you in my situation to heed to my advice as I will practice what I preach and MYOB.

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“What is excellence at one level is mediocrity at the next.” I saw this tweet come across my timeline a few days ago from my pastor. This really hit home for me because of where I am currently in life. Today I embarked on a new journey in life, I returned to school to further my education. The demands of this program are for more rigorous than any program that I have enrolled in before. What was considered excellent then, is now good and so I know that at this stage I not only have to adjust my work ethic, but also my mindset and attitude.

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“Excellence is not an act but a habit” said Aristotle. We should always strive to be better and do better than before. Once God has called us to a different stage in life our former lifestyles must change. You cannot have the same mindset or attitude of a regular employee if you are now a supervisor or manager.  What was once acceptable at one level may need to change slightly, or drastically, but change must occur.

Once you reach greatness, however you define it, at one stage, continue to progress do even better.

Colossians 3:23-24 says

Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.

We must know that we are working for the Lord and he wants our absolute best at all times.

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Have you ever been to a restaurant and ordered food and once it came it looked so amazing, but once you took a bite it had no flavor? What did you do? I know when this happens I immediately reach for the salt because it helps enhance the flavor of whatever it is seasoning.

So what are the characteristics of salt?

1. Salt never takes on the characteristics of which is being seasoned. Think about it, you never say something tastes chickeny or steaky in the words of Pastor Jamal. Something always tastes salty

2. Salt is never bland. Bland is characterized as being easily agreeable, non-irritated, tasteless, lacking in individuality, casual)

This past Sunday at church one of the pastors gave a great sermon about the importance of relationships and being the “salt and light” in the world. At my church one of the main principles they preach is bringing Christ in culture. In order to do that you have to form relationships with all types of people and you can’t compromise your values to take on the characteristics of the world. God set us apart and called for us to be in the world not of the world.

When you are full of flavor people in the world can see God through you. Sometimes a person won’t pick up a bible or go to church, and you may not be able to use words to preach the gospel, but your lifestyle should reflect the gospel you are trying to preach.

When you are full of flavor you are a fragrance rather than an odor because people enjoy and respect your presence. When you are full of flavor you never consume the atmosphere you enter; you always set the atmosphere.

So as this week goes let us reflect on our lifestyle. Are we living a flavorful life according to God’s purpose? Or are we bland, lacking individuality and conforming to the atmosphere around us?