Over the weekend the internet was seriously a major wreck! Supposedly, Maya Angelou was hospitalized for reasons not stated. Apparently she is doing fine and will be speaking at a number of events this week. Lets kick off our work week with some motivational words from Maya Angelou
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit” -Aristotle
Some time in June I was at church and heard a sermon on HABITS…Whether positive or negative everyone has habits.
Good Habits are formed and Bad Habits you fall into! You choose your habits so develop winning habits. Here is a list of winning habits that should be practiced daily.
Daily Habits
1. Prayer (if this goes along with your beliefs)
2. Learning-become life long students.
3. Kindness
4. Exercise
5. Healthy Eating
6. Express your love
7. Expressing grattitude
8. Being prompt
9. Healthy relationships NOW (Needs Over Wants)
10. Saving and Investing More Wisely
I say on a daily basis I probably practice 7/10…I’m working on that healthy eating thing lol So Ladies (and gents) lets practice these GOOD daily habits!
Yesterday was the season premiere of The Oprah Winfrey Show and it was the first of a two-part interview with singer Whitney Houston. Whitney got real with Oprah and spoke in depth about her addiction and the turning point in her life. She says that after she filmed the movie “The Bodyguard” she began using drugs regularly or “heavy” as she puts it. She revealed things about her marriage to Bobby Bron “He was my drug,” Houston told Winfrey. “I didn’t do anything without him. I wasn’t getting high by myself. It was me and him together. We were partners.” She also spoke about the control Bobby had over her and her family as “The husband” and “The father” She felt it was refreshing.
I am very proud of Whitney. Her story is the story of many women and hopefully now they can see how she has transformed her life. According to MSNBC Whitney stated, “I had so much money and so much access to what I wanted. I didn’t think about the singing part anymore. I was looking for my young womanhood.” Its sad that a lot of young women lack the guidance and support necessary to develop into productive young women. Yes, the music industry is full of sex, money, drugs, and lies, but you do not have to succumb to any of those vices. Ultimately, it is our decision on how our life turns out, but with proper guidance and positive influences we have a better chance of succeeding. Whitney was in search of her young womanhood, but turned to drugs which only provides temporary pleasure and satisfaction. Eventually, your high will fade and you, in search of that perfect moment, that perfect feeling, begin your addiction and your downward spiral. At a point in time we need to take responsibility for our actions, which I believe Whitney is doing. She has finally made the decision to break the habit and remove the people associated with that bad habit out of her life. Yes she was the peak of her career when everything came crashing down, but she is trying to redeem herself. Although I was never personally affected by addictions ,I know how they can breakup families, relationships, friendships and even a person’s life based on my interactions with others. It takes a strong person to admit when he/she is wrong and in need of help. I’m glad Whitney saw that she wasn’t only hurting her fans and her family, but she was hurting herself and did something to change that.
Part 2. airs today at 4pm.
If you don’t know this already you are in luck! Men are very simple creatures (yes I said creatures) and often times there is a lack of communication between men and women because we (women) automatically assume men think like us (which we know is not the case) So here is a list of a few things we should know about the men in our lives. This may be new to some and a reminder to others so enjoy!
1. Compliment him! Men need to feel “pretty” also. If he looks good let him know. We know how we feel when a man tells us we look gorgeous or beautiful so don’t forget to do the same for him.
2. Always keep up your appearance. When we finally snag our prince charming some women tend to “fall off” That is a huge mistake. I am not saying go to great lengths to look beautiful such as plastic surgery, but maintain your figure, dress up occasionally and leave the sweats in the closet. Do the same thing that you were doing when he was courting you. Just because you have him doesn’t mean its over…remember you have to keep him!
3. Have your own life! We some people get into relationships they cut their friends and family off. They want to spend every moment with the new boo, but ladies, he WANTS you to have your own life. He is not going to stop hanging out with his friends or watching Monday night football. Continue to participate in the activities that brought you pleasure before you met him. Your life shouldn’t stop for him.
4. Have a backbone! I don’t think there is a sign on anyone’s back that says “Welcome to My Home.” You are not a door mat so do not act like one. Stand up for yourself and to him. This may lead to an argument, but at least he knows that you stand for something and you are not going to say “Ok baby”
5. Men show their love in multiple ways. I know you are like “he can say it once in a while.” I totally agree!! But just because he didn’t say I love you when you hung up the phone last night does not mean that he does not possess those feelings. They show their love in many ways…you just have to know your partner well enough to know that he loves you. Did he give you the last Sticky Wing at BBQs? That’s love (lol kidding)
6. If he is less talkative or if he doesn’t seem excited and you ask “What’s wrong?” If he says “nothing’s wrong” chances are nothing is wrong. Sometimes they don’t want to talk. Don’t nag the man to death until he tells you something that you don’t want to hear. Let him be. If there is a problem he will come and talk to you…eventually lol…Just let him know ok, but if you need to talk I’m here and leave it alone. (This is extremely hard for me, but I’m working on it)
7. Don’t take certain things literally. If he says how was your day…he doesn’t want a play by play. To be honest I give it anyway lol! I was reluctant with posting this particular one because if you ask how my day was I am going to let you know how it was. I’m not going say oh it was good…unless I don’t want to talk to you, but usually I give a detailed summary(how much detail can you give in a summary right lol) of my days events. If you know me, you know I ALWAYS have a story…might I add they are always pretty funny! so that’s what you are going to get. If you don’t want the details don’t ask the question.
Ok once again I am no relationship expert, but when I find things on the internet that are interesting I always want to share with you. Once again, use your judgment. I don’t know the details of many of your relationships, but hopefully this will open up the lines of communication better.
Yesterday we were taught to MAKE A PLAN before you shop, well today’s lesson deals with what to do when you get there. Often times when we shop, its the spur of the moment and so sometimes we find ourselves aimlessly walking through stores looking through the racks for something to grab our attention. It is then, when we spend unnecessary money on an article of clothing that we probably won’t wear and definitely do not need.
Lesson #2 When You Get There…
Stay tuned for more lessons on shopping smart!
via InStyle…with commentary from HGB
