*Disclaimer* I wrote the following post on January 15, 2015. There is a March 2015 update.

As of January 2, 2015 I unfollowed 97% of the hair pages that I was following on Instagram. I was trying to “Keep up with the Jones’” and try styles and products that really did not suit my hair type or preferable style but I had just had to follow them because they were “popular.” I’m officially done. On December 30, 2014 I was so hyped to get crochet braids because they were the new “It” hairstyle. I did some research, bought some hair, and went to the salon Tuesday at 9am. I showed them the hair and they said it wasn’t suitable for the style I wanted. I went back to a beauty supply store and bought the proper hair and spent 4 hours getting my hair done. Although I have a small head, I have a lot of hair. The process wasn’t as painful as box braids or senagelese twists. Everyone that came into the salon kept complimenting the hair and how the style was coming out so I was excited to see it.

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So around 1:30 I was done. I looked in the mirror and I was not happy. I managed to smile, paid the money and kept it moving. I was miserable. It was way too much hair and did not look like the styles that I see on the gram. I met up with my mom and sis and did not want to take my hat off. Once I did there was a lonnnnngggg pause…then my sister said “It’s not that bad.” I said, “But it is bad though?” It was a mess. I tried to restyle it, but on headbands and I just wasn’t happy. Usually when I like a hairstyle I like it and you know it. I was not feeling confident at all. My boyfriend wasn’t a fan, my line sister said “Fix it Jesus” lol. I wasn’t upset with them because I hated it too.

Yeah...my hair did not look like this...

Yeah…my hair did not look like this…

I went to a game night on Friday January 2, 2015 and some people didn’t even recognize me. So Saturday January 3, 2015 around 12pm I cut the bulk of the hair and took out the crochet twists. I needed help because of the “closure” the stylists did at the top. It was a mess.

I went to my salon got a wash and set and now I am back to square one.

My hair is the thinnest that it has ever been. It’s not crazy thin, but I’m used to having thicker hair. The front stops around my cheeks and the back grazes the shoulders. The front of my hair is so thin and short because my ends were badly damaged and fuzzy, so they had to go. Remember a few years ago I didn’t relax my hair for about 6 months and then started to texlax for a few months, then I went back to my regular relaxers. I had 52 different textures, mainly in the front. My hair dresser did perm my ends, but did not want to over process them, so she would trim my ends often. That’s why I have two different lengths. I am going to go back to what I was doing before I was encapsulated by all of this blogging stuff: protective styles, co-washes, marley buns, texlaxing, relaxer stretches, etc. That stuff works for some people, but not for me. I’m going back to my old regimen. Wash and sets and deep conditions every week and a half or two weeks, relaxers every 8-10 weeks, trims, moisturize and seal when necessary. All of that in addition to having healthier diet and taking my vitamins.

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If it ain’t broke don’t fix it. So I’m going back to my old ways.

*UPDATE  March 11, 2015*

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I. AM. LOVING. MY. HAIR. Based on how my year started off, I did not expect to be saying that so soon. I stopped doing what I saw and did what was best for me. Being a blogger I would often get invites to various events and get tons of products that really weren’t for me. I would see results on other bloggers, but they were natural and it worked for them. Instead of trying to keep up with that lifestyle I went back to what I knew worked; my Dominican wash and sets and deep conditions. Spare me with the heat damage and all of that other stuff. My hair is the healthiest that it is has been in years. I am retaining length and my hair is much fuller. Most importantly, I’m happy with the results and progress.

What are your hair goals and regimens?

Hey my loves!

I’m here today with another hair chronicles post. I think these will be a little more frequent now that I am experimenting with different things regarding my hair. If you have been following this blog for a while or if you follow me on Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter you know I rarely keep a hairstyle for more than two months, unless it is my signature doobie wrap. Well for the 1st part of 2013 (January-March) I wore my signature wrap. From March until May I had a weave. From May to the end of June I had a weave and cornrow combination going on. From June until August I had my poetic justice box braids. I took my braids out last week and now I’m at that stage where I have no idea what I want to do with my hair. I have only relaxed my hair twice this year, once in January and once in March. I am currently 5 months and 2 weeks post relaxer and this is the longest that I have been without a relaxer since my middle school days. I usually stretch my relaxer for about 3 months, but I’ve been doing a lot more protective styling than usual.

I say all of that to say I have no idea what to do with my hair now. I’m not sure if I want to long term transition natural, big chop, texlax/texturize my hair, protective style, or get another relaxer. Since I took out my braids I’ve worn a bun for a week and now I’m rocking a flexi rod set. Anyway so yesterday I co-washed my hair, but before that I did an avocado hair mask. My friend Melissa mentioned she used one and her hair came out great. So I decided to put my own little mask together.

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Ingredients:

  • 2 small avocados
  • 1/4 cup of olive oil
  • 2 Tbsp of natural honey
  • 1 egg

Rationale: The avocado hair mask is a great deep conditioner. It adds shine and moisture to dry and brittle hair. The egg is great for protein hair repair.  Honey is great for moisture and olive oil is great for making your hair more manageable, softer, and it adds shine, just like avocados.

Method

I mixed all of the ingredients in my Ninja blender and let cool in the refrigerator for about 20 minutes. Make sure there are no lumps in the mix. It should be a smooth paste. Before I let it cool I was tempted to taste it because it smelled so good lol. While the mix was cooling I detangled my hair and separated it into four sections. I then applied the mixture to each section similar to how my relaxers are applied. I focused mainly on my new growth and the line of demarcation and then worked my way down to my ends. My hair is pretty long and VERY THICK. So I used a lot of the mix to make sure all of my hair was coated. I had less than 1/4 left after applying a generous amount to all four sections. I then covered my hair with  a plastic cap for about 45-minutes. I then rinsed my hair. Make sure you rinse your hair THOROUGHLY. You do not want to find little bits of avocado in your hair throughout the week lol.

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Results

My hair was much softer than my previous wash. It was also smoother and silkier. Then I co-washed my hair Pantene’s Truly Relaxed Moisturizing Conditioner (the only one in my house). My hair felt incredible once I was done with the wash process. My hair was not tangled and it was easy to comb through. I applied a leave-in conditioner, sealed my hair with a mix of oils and then blow dried my hair. I think I’m going to continue using the avocado mask each time I wash my hair because it made my hair easy to manage with the two different textures.

Have you ever used a DIY hair mask? What’s your go to recipe?

Society puts a lot of emphasis on women’s hair. It is important to some cultures but society and the media makes women feel insecure based on their hair texture, length, and styles. I am not #TeamNatural, #TeamRelaxed, #TeamWeave, #TeamWigs or any other team. I just want people to have HEALTHY HAIR. I’ve seen plenty of naturals with dry, brittle, matted unhealthy hair and the same goes for women with relaxers; some have thin, dry, brittle, and damaged hair as well. I’ve seen women who wear weaves constantly have some of the best edges while women who have never worn a weave have edges that are similar to Naomi Campbell’s. Hair is just hair and as long as it is healthy that is all that matters.

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I found this article on Self.com entitled “Healthy Hair Defined” and this can go for ALL hair types and textures.

Follow the threes Ss: Soft, Strong, and Shiny.

Soft: When your hair is soft it shows that it has some type of moisture and bounce. If you have coarse hair like me it can still be soft. Coarse does not mean brittle and dry you just have to moisturize.

Strong: Hair sheds naturally and there is nothing that you can do about it. What you can do to make your hair stronger is reduce the amount of heat you use and the amount of manipulation you do when styling your hair. You also have to be mindful of the amount of chemicals you use. So you should be careful with the bleaches and dyes and even relaxers. That’s why I wear protective hairstyles, not only for length retention, but also to get my hair stronger protecting it from the elements of nature.

Shiny: Your hair should have a natural shine. Sometimes we need the help of essential oils, sprays, and oil sheens to give it that extra boost. If your hair is dry and likes shine you may want to consider switching your shampoos and conditioners and even doing deep conditioning treatments, hot oil treatments, and protein treatments. You should also consider using a moisturizing shampoo and purchasing cleansing conditioners for co-washes instead of using shampoo. Minimizing the use of heat will also keep your hair shiny.

FYI:

Healthy Hair is shiny hair with a smooth texture and clean-cut ends or tapered tips is generally perceived to be healthy. Hair texture and shine relate to hair surface properties, whereas the integrity of hair ends relates to the hair cortex. Hair can be straight, wavy or curly, blonde, black, brown, red, gray white, and its natural variations are important to our identity -Rob D. Sinclair

I just had this conversation with my mother about my ever-changing hairstyles and curl pattern and she basically said “It’s just hair.” She is so right. I have been relaxer free for about 5 months now. I haven’t decided if I want to go fully natural, but I have been wearing protective hairstyles since March. I had a weave, a curly weave cornrow combo, and now box braids. I like to switch up my hairstyles often ever since I made that one of my new years resolutions a few years ago, so I go back and forth from my regular relaxed wrap to different hairstyles. I have been researching different hairstyles for when I take my box braids out because I’m not sure if I want to relax my hair yet. I have been having the itch to do something different, but my main concern is maintaining the health of my hair. That’s all that matters.

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Beyonce debuted her new look via Instagram and there were mixed reviews. I think some people are just miserable and find ways to spew their hatred for no apparent reason. I’ve seen Rihanna stans say Bey is trying to be like her. I don’t understand why when we all know some of Rihanna’s most infamous hairstyles have been inspired by Kelis (the grey hair and the half shaved bossy look). Maybe Beyonce wanted a change…did you ever think of that? I mean she has had long luxurious weaves and wigs for too many years. It’s nice to see a change. She has a beautiful face and the cut frames it well. I guess people can’t make a decision in life without back lash. Maybe that little fan incident was an eye opener for her and she wanted to try something new. She has the money to go and get a 46″ Brazilian lacefront right now.

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If you don’t like the cut you have a right to have your own opinion, but you don’t have to bash. Everyone is not going to like everything and people should not make decisions in hopes of pleasing everyone. You are just going to add stress to your life and that is not healthy for you physically, and it sure isn’t good for your hair, because that is what’s important. If someone else’s hairstyle stops you from living, then I suggest you look deep within and see what truly matters.

So be happy and be healthy and do what you want with your hair as long as it is healthy!

 

When it comes to finding or buying products for my hair I am definitely not a product junkie. Once I find something I like I stick with it until I feel it is time to move on. I read TONS of reviews and only use products that are highly recommended by people that I trust. If you have been following my blog for a while, you know how I feel about my hair.

My hair has been through many phases throughout my life. There has only been two times in my life that my hair was severely damaged. That was in 8th grade and my junior year of college. Since the last episode when I was 20 I made sure to make my hair a priority.

It was never about team relaxed or team natural, it was about team healthy hair because you can be natural and have severely damaged hair as well.

When I got the opportunity to review Pantene’s new line for Truly Relaxed hair I was super excited. I’ve used their products previously when it focused on relaxed AND natural hair but I wanted to see what the difference would be since now they have products specifically for my hair is relaxed.

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I was sent the following products:
Light Weight Shampoo
Designed to gently cleanse relaxed African-American hair to protect each strand against breakage without weighing it down so you can grow healthy-looking hair.
Moisturizing Conditioner
Enriched with coconut and jojoba oils to leave relaxed hair soft, tamed, and strong against future damage.
Oil Crème Moisturizer
Defends against damage, help prevent dryness, and leaves hair shining.

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My thoughts

I really like these products. I need a few more uses to probably love them, but I really like my results. I was a little skeptical about the lightweight shampoo, because I generally use a moisturizing shampoo (they do carry an intense moisturizing shampoo) but everything turned out great because the shampoo was not harsh and my hair didn’t feel hard after the initial use. The oil crème moisturizer seemed a bit heavy when I placed some on my finger tips, but once it was spread evenly throughout my hair it turned out to be very light weight. I try not use too many products that will weigh my hair down and have it looking flat. I use the moisturizer mainly on the “rough edges” meaning the nape of my neck and around my hairline. My hair tends to be the driest in those areas. I apply a very little at night and by the morning my hair is very soft. The conditioner left my hair very soft as well and I could see a difference from the condition of my hair a few weeks prior.

What I loved most about the products was that my hair was shiny for approximately 3-4 days without me adding any oils including sheen. Usually I am applying oil sheen 1-2 days after I wash my hair, but this was not the case. My hair was very soft, bouncy, and it had great shine. What more could you ask for!

I would definitely recommend using these products.

Truly Relaxed and Truly Natural – Two collections From Pantene for healthier hair* no matter what your style.
*Vs. non-conditioning shampoo

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