Chris Brown

Rihanna has been making headlines all week it seems like. On Monday the singer released a remix to a fan favorite “Birthday Cake” with Chris Brown. So many people were up in arms about her decision to create music with Chris Brown because of the events of 2009. Personally, I believe in forgiveness and if she forgave Chris for the incident then so be it. I don’t believe in holding grudges. The only person that you are hurting is yourself in that situation. I haven’t been in a relationship similar to what Rihanna and Chris Brown had, and I am in no position to judge them or their decisions so I won’t-it is their life and they will do as they please, regardless if we agree or disagree with their decisions. With that being said I will however judge this ensemble that she is wearing!

Rihanna and bestie Melissa were leaving her London hotel and Rihanna wore a grey “Rich” hooded sweatshirt dress. She tried to jazz it up a bit with some blue fishnet socks and royal blue pointy toe stilettoes. I must say that I actually like the dress. I have been looking for the designer, but could not find it. I did however find a few options that are similar. I would not have worn the dress with the socks and heels. I would have ‘thugged it out’ just a tad bit and wore it with a pair of Jordans, preferably the Cement 3s or 4s, or the Concords. I think if she would have paired it with the sneakers instead of the heels and removed that knot then she would have nailed this look.

What do you guys think about Rihanna’s look?

Here are some dresses similar to Rihanna’s at all price points. Once I find the designer of Rihanna’s dress I will update the post

More Jo No Fui…

This post was inspired by Chris Brown’s Michael Jackson Tribute from the BET Awards last night.

I am not going to lie, I was in tears during this performance. First of all, the dancing was ON POINT! There is no one (not Usher, Omarion, or Justin Timberlake) who could have paid homage to Michael Jackson like Chris Brown. He was not given the opportunity to pay respects to Michael Jackson because of the incident with Rihanna last year and for him to pour his heart out on stage was extremely emotional.

Twitter was going crazy last night and I must say I only saw a few ignorant tweets, but if you did not think that performance was heart felt and genuine, I am not sure if you are human. Some people feel his cry was staged, but Chris Brown is not that great of an actor to pull that off. He finally had an opportunity to pay tribute to his idol the right way and he was able to show the world that he truly is sorry for his actions. He made himself vulnerable to the point where he could not sing.

WE ALL make mistakes and bad decisions in our lives, so who are we to judge this young man and incredible entertainer? Sure his earlier efforts may not have seemed “genuine” to some, but he deserves a second chance. If a person is trying to show you that they want to make their lives better and is just asking for forgiveness, why not forgive them? It takes more energy and effort to hold on to grudges and past hurts, than it does to forgive and be set free from emotional and mental bondage. You have to constantly remind yourself of why you hate or despise that person so much that you miss out on the joys of life, and clearly seeing Chris Brown perform is definitely a joy with the lack of talent that we have in the music industry today.

Pastor Bernard has taught me that in order for a person to change in the mind, they must first have a change of heart. So Chris Brown has done all he can do, he has done his community service, he has apologized, and he has been suffering in isolation since but read the words of “Man In the Mirror”

I’m Gonna Make A Change,
For Once In My Life
It’s Gonna Feel Real Good,
Gonna Make A Difference
Gonna Make It Right . . .

If someone is trying to make it right, don’t deny them the opportunity. Look into your life and ask yourself, have I forgiven the person or people who have caused me hurt, pain, or suffering? The first step to healing starts with you. This is not going to happened in one day. I am still struggling with totally forgiving people who have hurt me, but that performance and listening to the words of the song made me reevaluate myself. So

I’m Starting With The Man In
The Mirror
I’m Asking Him To Change
His Ways
And No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change