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AR Bernard

“What is excellence at one level is mediocrity at the next.” I saw this tweet come across my timeline a few days ago from my pastor. This really hit home for me because of where I am currently in life. Today I embarked on a new journey in life, I returned to school to further my education. The demands of this program are for more rigorous than any program that I have enrolled in before. What was considered excellent then, is now good and so I know that at this stage I not only have to adjust my work ethic, but also my mindset and attitude.


“Excellence is not an act but a habit” said Aristotle. We should always strive to be better and do better than before. Once God has called us to a different stage in life our former lifestyles must change. You cannot have the same mindset or attitude of a regular employee if you are now a supervisor or manager.  What was once acceptable at one level may need to change slightly, or drastically, but change must occur.

Once you reach greatness, however you define it, at one stage, continue to progress do even better.

Colossians 3:23-24 says

Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.

We must know that we are working for the Lord and he wants our absolute best at all times.

“Humility is not weakness, but strength under control” — A.R. Bernard

If you don’t have a vision for the future, then your future is threatened to be a repeat of the past. – A. R. Bernard

“Wisdom is the skillful use of knowledge and understanding for successful living” –A.R. Bernard

The words and teachings of Pastor A.R. Bernard

Bad temper is contagious – don’t get infected.

Proverbs 22:25 MSG

Learning the art of happiness means learning how to deal with difficult people.  After all, even the most saintly among us can be difficult to deal with at times.  So it’s inevitable that, from time to time, you’ll encounter folks who behave inappropriately in the same way, or worse.

If you have occasion to deal with difficult people, remember the following tips:

1.  Make Sure That You’re Not the One Being Difficult: Perhaps the problems that concern you have their origin, at least partially, within your own heart.  If so, fix yourself first (Philippians 2:3).

2. Don’t Lecture: Lectures inevitably devolve into nagging; nagging creates animosity, not lasting change.  Since nagging usually creates more problems than it solves, save your breath (Proverbs 15:1)

 3. Don’t Become Caught Up in the Other Person’s Emotional Outbursts: If someone is ranting, raving, or worse, you have the right to get up and leave.  Remember: Emotions are highly contagious, so if the other person is angry, you will soon become angry, too.  Instead of adding your own emotional energy to the outburst, your should make the conscious effort to remain calm-and part of remaining calm may be leaving the scene of the argument (Proverbs 22:24-25).

4. Stand Up for Yourself: If you’re being mistreated, either physically, emotionally, or professionally, it’s time to start taking care of yourself.  But remember that standing up for yourself doesn’t require an angry outburst on your part.  You can (and probably should) stand up for yourself in a calm, mature, resolute manner.  And you should do so sooner rather than later (Psalm 27:1).

5. Be Quick to Forgive: If you can’t find it in your heart to forgive those who have hurt you, you’re hurting yourself more than you’re hurting anyone else.

A Simple Step

Insist upon logical consequences to irresponsible behavior.  When you protect other people from the consequences of their misbehavior, you’re doing those folks a profound disservice.  Most people don’t learn new behaviors until the old behaviors stop working, so don’t be an enabler (Hebrews 12:5-6).