Ok Ladies,
I am pretty sure that most of us, if not all, have a signature look. Whether it is a certain style of clothing (for me it would be skinny jeans), our favorite shoe that we know goes with EVERYTHING, a pair of leggings, a tunic, or even a go-to makeup look, we have something that never fails us. My only problem with “signature looks” is that they can be very limiting and it is too safe. I know am always playing it “safe” but it is now time to break out of the usual. Whenever you go out people shouldn’t automatically know how your hair is going to be styled or what type of outfit you put together. Fashion is so flexible we don’t always have to play it safe, we can try something different and outrageous! Unlike Megan Good who is pictured above it seems like whenever she hits the streets of NYC or Hollywood she has the same exact look. She is always in something black whether it is the entire outfit, just a pair of leggings, or boots and a motorcycle jacket and her infamous red lipstick. Red lipstick is not something that should be worn everyday! She looks a bit used and a lot older.
It is nice when you see a celebrity fresh faced with a neutral look. It is cool when they go for the edgy look or even the preppy look. My point is it is ok to have a signature look, but some looks are not appropriate for every occasion. So add some spice to your style and switch up your looks. Fashion is supposed to be fun so have fun and explore A FEW different looks and trends and then that signature look will be appreciated a lot more.
Growth-noun-full development or maturity; development from a simpler to a more complex form; increase in value or strength
“Life is change, growth is optional, choose wisely.” -Anonymous
Whether you agree with it or not, change is inevitable. You cannot stop the process of getting older (no matter how many cosmetic surgery operations you get), you cannot stop time, the weather, natural disasters, or death. That is a part of life. Time does not wait for anyone as it progresses. The only thing that we can do is choose whether or not we want to grow as life progresses.
Growth is an option. We cannot control the growth of our physical bodies, but we can control our intellectual, social and spiritual growth. Some people are afraid of change and so the choose not grow. They engage in the same behaviors and activities that they did five, ten, even fifteen years ago. Many people would say what is wrong with that, but if you are still the same person that you were 10 yrs ago how have you grown in any way?
Each chance that we get to spend a new day on this earth we should strive to reach a higher level than we were the day before. It could be something as simple as trying to make your bed up three days out of the week or washing the dishes every night. When people here the words change and growth they automatically think of some far fetched goal that does not seem attainable. People do not realize that even simply reading the newspaper or a magazine is progress for someone who chooses not to read at all.
When you grow you are increasing your strength and value in certain aspects of life. We should strive to be better than we were the day before and do something that will stimulate growth mentally, socially, spiritually, physically (staying or getting in shape) and financially. We should want to continue to progress in all areas and aspects of life. Our financial, social, intellectual, physical, or spiritual states will not change automatically. We must choose to be proactive and choose to grow.
Remember this not an event it is a process that takes time and every step towards making your life better and more wholesome counts. So will you choose to remain stagnant and complain about your situation or will you choose to grow as a person to reach your dreams and desires?
“Life is change, growth is optional, choose wisely”
I must remember that this is only “entertainment.” It seems like VH1’s agenda is to degrade as many minority women as possible. Shaunie O’Neal’s idea did sound like it would be something positive but…..watch the trailer
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that prisoner was you.” – Lewis B. Smedes
I’ll keep this post short and to the point….
It is ok to let go! Often times we like to hold on to grudges because we have been hurt so many times. We are afraid to let go and forgive in fear of being hurt again. In all reality, we are only causing ourselves more harm than anything by holding on to these grudges. Being hurt and disappointed is a part of life because of human nature, but what matters most is how you recover from that hurt and those disappointments.
Dwelling on the past keeps you bound mentally and emotionally which can affect you physically, socially, financially, and spiritually. It is ok to forgive the person or people who hurt you. If not your whole life can and will change. Your attitude and state of mind change and you know longer think or act in a rational manner. Everything that you think or do revolves around the resentment and bitterness that you have been harboring. Harboring those feelings does not bring healing. Resentment and bitterness keeps the pain while forgiveness rids the pain.
You have to have it in your heart to truly forgive if you want to truly LIVE! To live- verb- in a state of action; vivid; vibrant; full of energy and spirit;
The only way a person can change their mind or attitude is if they change their heart. Some of our hearts have been hardened and it may seem like a rock but you can break free. Pastor Bernard once said “Do not let your past hold your future captive.” Ask yourselves these questions 1.” What keeps me bound?” 2. “Who have I not truly forgiven (question Minister Onario Chaparro asked during Good Friday) 3. “Do I truly want to be one of the living DEAD or do I want to truly LIVE?” I hope you choose life over death. Break free and forgive.
This weekend has been such a transformational weekend for me mentally. Everything from watching the news, going to church, and even going to the movies. If you havn’t seen “Why Did I Get Married Too?” go and see it. It is a really good movie. So many important lessons that we all should follow.
