Dr. Sanford

Via Historymakers.com

Afrocentric educator Adelaide L. Sanford has impacted the lives of students at every level of New York City‘s school system through her work in shaping educational policy. Born in Brooklyn on November 27, 1925, Sanford began her career teaching primary grades in New York before rising to the position of vice chancellor of the State University of New York’s Board of Regents.1947. She received her M.Ed. from Wellesley College three years later. From 1950 to 1965, Sanford taught in New York’s elementary schools before being hired as an assistant principal. Sanford earned her Ph.D. from Fordham University in 1967 and later became principal at Crispus Attucks School in Brooklyn, earning her an outstanding reputation of promoting excellence and achievement at an inner-city school.1986, Sanford won unanimous election to the Board of Regents of the State University of New York. As chairperson of the Regents’ Committee on Low Performing Schools, she played an instrumental role in shaping new educational policies that sought to close the gap among schools in student performance. Though outspoken and known for her African-style dress and Ebonics commentary, Sanford has never wavered in her concern for the welfare of New York’s students, particularly those at low-performing schools. While serving as a regent, Sanford has also taught at Baruch College and Fordham University.

I had the pleasure of listening to Dr. Adelaide Sanford speak at my church (Christian Cultural Center) at our Women’s Meeting. She is a very engaging, powerful, and eloquent speaker. Her speech made my job as a teacher so much more meaningful. Some of my views model Dr. Sanford’s views to a tee! It was incredible! Her entire speech was not about teaching our children, but empowering ourselves as women being that all life comes from a woman.

She asked a question “What does it mean to be a mother?” That question cannot be answered because we need to understand what it means to be a woman first. As women, we are naturally enhancers, peacemakers, givers, and enablers (not neccessarily in a negative context). We need to understand our role as women before we can have any meaningful relationships.

As women we are disaffected from each other. Instead of embracing one another for our positive qualities and seeing the God in each other, we hate and tear each other down. We tend to reject each other and we cannot reject anyone and embrace God.

She mentioned “pretty is as pretty does” meaning beauty is not defined by physical appearance, but it is defined in actions, attitude, and character. We must “act pretty” to create a beautiful atmosphere where we are all accepted.

Many of us (as women) do not have meaningful relationships because we have weak belief systems. We have to believe we deserve the bes and not settle! Dr. Sanford said Strengthen your belief systems and embrace who you are as you are, in order to have a relationship with others. So creating these alter egos, fake personas (Barbies, 5 Star Chicks, Divas), and facades is not allowing us to have meaningful relationships because we are not loving and accepting who we are. In order for us to feel needed, wanted, and accepted, we must hide who we really are to portray what others think we should be.

There was sooooooo much more, but I was so captivated by her that I could not get it all down in my notebook lol. I need the audio.

She was truly an inspiration. If you EVER have the opportunit to hear her speak, please do!

black-face1Ok so Halloween was Saturday and many people took advantage of the costume gimmick to be racially offensive. I don’t know about any of you, but this is not amusing to me at all. I saw about 5 different pics of Caucasians in black face (some were taken with African-Americans) and they are just “shuckin and jivin” laughing and smiling like its not a problem. Am I missing something? Is this becoming socially acceptable? This is blatant disrespect of my culture. I know they say history repeats itself, but seriously I am not about to go down the same road our ancestors and civil rights leaders faught and died for in order for me to be accepted and treated “equally” People are probably saying “Nique, it’s just a costume, it is not that serious” but tell that to the student who was sent home from school because he was white and came dressed as a mammy. We can’t keep ignoring this blatant disrespect. We have come to far, although many people are setting us back decades, I am not reliving the past. I saw a white woman dressed as Little Wayne and another as T-Pain. So what does that say about the entertainers and how they are representing our culture? (I think T-Pain is a fool anyway, but that’s not my point). If we keep brushing off these subtle acts of racism then it won’t be long before we are reliving the past.

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There has been a lot of controversy surrounding these ads and also Tyra’s use of black face on one of the recent episodes of ANTM. Fashion or not this is not acceptable. If you want to have the image of a black and a white model in some type of conflict….HIRE A BLACK MODEL. Please spare me the “deep down inside they want to be like us. They tan their skin, get breast and butt implants, they try to dress like us, and they even want our men, so I take this as a compliment….blah blah blah.” Save it and stop being ignorant. Yes we have many attributes that Caucasian women would like, but still instead of PERPETRATING and IMITATING us, appreciate us and give us the respect we deserve.

What are your thoughts?

rihannaIs Miss Fenty ready to break her silence? Is she doing this for sympathy or to promote her new album? If it is for the latter, interesting marketing plan (I hope it doesn’t back fire). Whatever her reasoning is, I really want to hear what she has to say. I think she has been silent for too long, but I just hope she is sincere. I hope she doesn’t just give the “politically correct” answer, but admit her faults (if any) and only focus on Chris and his issues. Hopefully what she has to say will help millions of women who are facing or have faced the issue of domestic violence.

 I was never intrigued by Rihanna’s character, honestly she’s really dry and doesn’t really seem to have much of a personality, but none the less I will be tuning in to Good Morning America and 20/20 Friday November 6 to hear Her Story.

Here she is as Tony the Tiger or maybe just a tiger at Mariah Carey’s halloween party at M2 in NYC

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Ok so I had a really relaxing weekend, which was much  needed because of my busy and stressful week. Working full time, graduate, and blogging does take its toll on me sometimes, but none the less I am back! Please allow me to vent a little…. Last week we had parent-teacher conferences and I saw about 100 parents of my 160 students in two days (smh ridiculous right!!!) The last day of the conferences my laptop stopped working! It would not load up and go to the start page. I called Dell (they are the worse!! Never again will I purchase one) and they gave me the run-around at first, then ridiculous prices to fix the problem with my computer! I spoke to 4 different people one “supervisor” (I think he was lying) and some fool named RJ who tried to get smart with me (so you know the Brownsville in me came out during that convo. I ended up going to BestBuy and the GeekSquad are going to fix my problem and I’ll have my laptop back by the end of the week. Back to work, I have been stressing over curriculum-mapping because this is what the Quality Review will be grading the schools on this year (Thanks Bloomberg *side eye*) and I had a few assignments do for school, but no complaints here about school. So that was my week, but I did go to Negril Village Friday night for a friend’s birthday, the food was really good, as usual. I did watch the Yankess kick Philly’s butt!!! We are so winning the World Series.

Anyway here are some encouraging words for the beginning of the work week…

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Attitude is a decision: you choose your own attitude. You do not wake up bitter and angry, you choose to be bitter and angry. You do not wake up despising people and your job, you choose to despise those people and your job. The negative attributes are not built into our character. That is something we acquire because we are not loving and forgiving. In church I learned that YOUR ATTITUDE DETERMINES YOUR APPROACH, AND YOUR APPROACH DETERMINES YOUR SUCCESS OR FAILURE. Attitude is definitely a decision, because you can either choose to be happy or choose to be sad. You can choose to sulk, or you can choose to live a joyful life. So this morning I encourage you to choose the right attitude. Someone did not wake up this morning, someone is unable to read this blog, someone is unable to see or hear, someone does not have functioning limbs, and so change your attitude because ultimately it is your decision.

Rocsi is this weeks HGB Fashionista. She recently had a photo shoot and interview with HoneyMag and she talks about the affect the media and bloggers  have had on her and her self-esteem

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“I think a lot of these Web sites need a story.”  They need to find somebody to pick on, and I just so happen to be one of those girls. I’ve always had that coming up against Free on a black network and not being black.”

“I got where I’m at because of my work,” Rocsi insists. “I never had to lay on my back to get where I was. I come from a Latino background where family and the way we were brought up was very important. That’s how we conducted ourselves as ladies. And that’s a very important thing to my family, so yeah, when these blogs come out and they start talking shit — you’re messing with what my parents instilled in me. And I know it isn’t true. But I’m glad I have great family members who know that I wasn’t brought up that way, to not be blinded by this industry.

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I mean it’s real bad when it gets to the point where everything’s so unbearable. You really got to have that strength, because if I didn’t have that strength in me, I would kill myself. There are some days when I’m like ‘How bad do I want to kill myself right now? What is the point of going on when so many people despise me or hate what I do? At the end of the day, I don’t meltdown because I’m still going to be on BET,” Rocsi says. “Internet gangsters are so tough. They’re so tough.”

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I love the fact that Rocsi is so honest when it comes to expressing how the industry has been affecting her. I’m pretty sure she loves what does, but if it is to a point where you have thought about committing suicide, you may need to take a step back and re-evaluate your situation. It kills me to see how low her self-esteem is. The entertainment industry seems like a very dark place. People are under scrutiny by fans, supporter, “haters,” industry execs, and so forth. It seems like no one can do anything right. I guess it comes with the territory huh. YOu have to be a really strong person, mentally and spiritually to survive in any industry put especially entertainment because people are watching your every move and they are waiting for you to fail. I pray Rocsi remains strong and do not let all of the negativity cause her to do something that she will regret.
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You can’t place the blame on anyone in particular but some of these bloggers have a responsibility also. People are mentally weak and easily influenced so don’t be the reason that a person “pulls the trigger” or “takes the pills”