Last night, DJ AM was found dead in his Manhattan apartment. Next to his body was drug paraphenalia and cause of death is a suspected overdose. DJ AM whose real name is Adam Goldstein survived a horrific plane crash last September with Blink-182 drummer Travis Barker. DJ AM was respected by all of his peers in the music industry. This is a sudden loss and we at HGB send our condolences to DJ AM’s family and friends.

DJ AM’s last tweet “New York,  New York. Big city of dreams but everything in new york aint always what it seems”

I received this poem in an e-mail and just had to share. I am not taking credit for any of the words in this poem. I think with Fall/Autumn: The Season of Transition, some people need to be encouraged. I know that I am in a transitional period and God is working on my character to make me a stronger person. After reading this, I found a new perspective on the situations in my life, so I hope this is helpful to you as well.

Life is a Theatre, Invite your Audience Carefully


Life is a theater so invite your audiences carefully. Not everyone
is worthy of having a FRONT ROW seat in our lives. There are
some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.
It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you let go, or at least
minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not
going anywhere relationships, friendships, fellowships and family!
Everyone Can’t be in Your FRONT ROW
Observe the relationships around you.
Pay attention to: Which ones lift and which ones lean?
Which ones encourage and whice ones discourage?
Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are just
going downhill?
When you leave certain people, do you feel better or feel worse?
Which ones always have drama or don’t really understand, know
and appreciate you and the gift that lies within you?


Everyone can’t be in Your FRONT ROW
The more you seek God and the things of God, the more you seek
quality, the more you seek not just the hand of God but the face of
God, the more you seek things honorable, the more you seek
growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you, the easier it will
become for you to decide who gets to sit in the FRONT ROW and
who should be moved to the balcony of your life.
Everyone can’t be in Your FRONT ROW
You cannot change the people around you….but you can change
the people you are around! Ask God for wisdom and discernment
and choose wisely the people who sit in the FRONT ROW of your
life. Remember that FRONT ROW seats are for special & deserving
people and those who sit in your FRONT ROW should be chosen
Everyone Can’t be in Your FRONT ROW!!! 

There’s really not much commentary that I can make on this. Whoever wrote this said it all. Everyone can’t be in your front row!



When I saw the title of this video on another blog I had the serious *side eye* going. Skinny Jeans a health hazard? I said to myself “This doctor better have a whole lot of evidence to convince me I’m killng myself by wearing skinny jeans.” Its been said before if you wear your pants too tight you are more prone to getting a yeast infection than if you wear looser fitting pants. Granted that may have some truth, but what this doctor said took things to an entirely different level. Are we really in danger if we wear skinny jeans?



Ciara dances in Skinny’s


Beyonce’ rocks hers with a pair of platforms


Angela pairs hers with cute flats

How can the most versatile pair of jeans cause me harm? I didn’t want to believe it either but watch the video.

Are you sure you watched it? If not here is your synopsis. I think certain people take things to the extreme. WHO IN THEIR RIGHT MIND WOULD WEAR PANTS THAT CAUSES THEM TO FEEL PAIN?!?!?! Shoes I can understand, but JEANS!!! If you are cutting off the circulation in your thighs, hips, and other areas guess what? YOUR PANTS ARE TOOOOO TIGHT!!!! Get the next size or two sizes up. What is wrong with people. Before I watched the video I was sitting here thinking man “I’m glad I have good health insurance because I’m not giving up my skinny’s take me to the emergency room please thanks” But really this is a common sense situation, please use your brains! If you are walking like a stiff board, afraid to bend down or make any sudden moves in fear that your pants might rip…give them up and get YOUR CORRECT SIZE. Not the size you want to be but the size you ARE! What the doctor was saying about heels I understand and totally agree, but come on with the skinny jeans being hazardous. Yeah to people who do not exercise proper judgment. So ladies, don’t believe the hype, skinny jeans will not kill you or cause you any harm as long as you wear the right size. If you are still afraid, invest in a few pairs of wide leg jeans or boyfriend jeans. The proper rotatation will probably make things more comfortable and take the pressure from the areas that were talked about in the video. Remember to exercise good judgment please.


Here are pics from Cassie’s edgy photo shoot with DimePiece clothing. Cassie looks stunning and fierce and is rocking that cut. Maybe this shoot is what Cassie needed to give her the edgy rocker chick look she was going for.  I went over to the DimePiece website to see what else they had brewing for their Autumn/Winter 2009 collection. The message on one of the shirts say “One P*ssy You Can’’t F*ck With” As I surfed the site I began reading what DimePiece is about…

“Dime Piece is a lifestyle and brand aimed at catering to all the boss b**ches dipped in sauce. These are the females that have the potential to make a positive influence and consistently turn heads. P**sy appeal is a natural force that all females control. We as a brand encourage women to see the need to reconsider their position in the game. We are in control, period. A dime piece is a woman who appeals to her audience with genuine swag. She is a self-governing revolutionary who embodies all things sexy. She proclaims her opinion and attitude through her adventurous dress. She is educated by the books as well as the streets. Our products are for all who want to make a statement and aren’t afraid to leave the restrictions at the door. Let’s be a go-getter, a kitten with claws, a fashion aficionado, and memorable individual who is essentially the perfect ten.”-memorable? for what reasons?

 I understand the message that DimePiece and MTTM/MOB (Married To The Mob/Most Official B*tches) are trying to get across as premium brands, but what happened to CLASS? That doesn’t exist anymore apparently. Yes, it is 2009 and women are more empowered than ever before. We are more outspoken about our sexuality and sexual liberation (mainstream use of vibrators…Barbara Walters talks about it) and about our wants and needs, but when did it become cool to conform to blatant disrespect?



Seriously think about it, what message are we sending tomorrow’s youth? Besides the fact of having a limited vocabulary we are not uplifting or motivating young females.  As a high school teacher, I see first hand how impressionable these young girls are. Their self-worth is already nearly non-existent. Some may say well it is the responsibility of the parent to teach young children about self-worth and self-respect, but what if the parents aren’t there? Who should step up? With Michelle Obama being the First Lady, I think we need to do better. Mainstream has popularized the term B*tch and let us talk about our vagina like its just an object.

P**sy appeal is down right offensive! How about we as whole become more appealing without eluding to our reproductive organs. We need to start using our brains as power, and not what’s between our legs. Now many females are out prostituting calling it being an opportunist.  “I’m not having sex for free. He better get me those Gucci sneakers. I mean my stuff is powerful so he should trick on me.” SMH! So you are saying you are only worth a pair of sneakers, maybe a bag, a piece of jewelry?


Think about the people who are in the limelight that supposedly speak for females who yearn to be heard: Paris Hilton, Nicole Richie, Cassie, Rihanna, Lady GaGa (don’t know if I can count shim) Amber Rose, Brittany Spears, Teyanna Taylor, Aubrey O’Day, D. Woods, The Olsen Twins, Nicki Minaj, Lindsay Lohan to name a few. Think about how they are perceived in the media, either having an eating disorder, drug/alcohol problem, abusive relationship, indecent exposure, and so forth. So this is the voice of the modern woman? This is who represent us? Yes they all get fly and dress their butts off but is this who we want our children looking up too? Style wise YESSSSS, they are fierce, but what about character?

Angela and Vanessa Simmons, Chanel Iman, Amerie, Janelle Monae, Chrisette Michelle, Kyla Pratt, KeKe Palmer, Tia and Tamara Mowry, Adrienne Bailon, Monica, Dawn Richard, and the list goes on. How many scandals have they been apart of? They have style and class in my opinion, respected amongst their peers and their fans. They are the real DimePieces because their style and character speak volumes!

Don’t be afraid to leave restrictions at the door, but don’t leave your class with it. By all means, express your attitudes and opinions, but how you express yourself says a lot about  your character. If you want to be respected demand it! You don’t have to call yourself or your friends a B*tch to earn  respect, it comes across in your presence and your actions. Lets broaden our vocabularies and find other words to describe ourselves. No acronyms or acrostics for B*tch either.

One thing that will never go out of style is denim. Every woman (and man) needs a great pair of jeans in her wardrobe. This fall, she also needs a few key items that will make anyone (guys and girls) do a double take when she is walking down the street. Those key items are

1. Chic jacket 


2. A boyish vest



3. A leather jacket


Plain White T's
Hat and Heels No.1
Welcome to the present
Fall Time
Key items to pair your jeans with
-canvas sneakers
leather jacket
chic scarf
riding boots
studded vests
 lace-up ankle boots
 white t-shirts
tank tops
bedazzle yourself in jewels
platform heels